25 Days of Grace (Day 10) Relating on Their Level


“You keep track of all my sorrows. You have collected all my tears in your bottle. You have recorded each one in your book.” Psalm 56:8

“Are not two sparrows sold for a penny? Yet not one of them will fall to the ground outside your Father’s care. And even the very hairs of your head are all numbered. So don’t be afraid; you are worth more than many sparrows.” Matthew 10:29-31

“I am the good shepherd. I know my own and my own know me, just as the Father knows me and I know the Father; and I lay down my life for the sheep.” John 10:14-15

“Before I formed you in the womb I knew you, and before you were born I consecrated you; I appointed you a prophet to the nations.” Jeremiah 1:5

​I was a freshman in college when I first observed him.  He made such an impact on me that I made sure to pay close attention whenever he was present, and I put what I saw at the top of my “What to Do When I’m a Parent” list!

A respected college professor, and father of 3 little ones, he could often be seen spending time with his children. ​I don’t ever remember a time, when he was relating to one of  his children, that I didn’t see him take the time to physically get down on thier level and purposely make eye contact and focus on them. Even at their very  young ages, he valued what they were thinking. ​

Over the years I have had the privilege of watching him as he raised his 3 children. No matter what age they were, he took the time to make eye contact and tune in.  His goal was to be present and engaged.  His children are now grown, and the relationship that they share is a testimony of  3 children that knew they were loved, valued, and heard.

Relating On Their Level

Another aspect of the grace gift of tuning in is to purpose to relate to our children on their level​. In the same way that God the Father knows everything about us and laid down his life for us (John 10), keeps track of our sorrows ((Psalm 65:8),  and  has numbered the very hairs of your head (Matthew 10), you can intentionally pursue your children in an effort to know them and tune in to them.

No. We are not God and we are not capable of loving or knowing anyone in the way that he knows and loves us, but we can make it our goal to follow his example of love and care for us, and then do all that we can to live that out with our own children.

I have not been perfect at this, but I have worked extremely hard to tune in​ this way and it has proven fruitful. No matter what age our children are, we can practice tuning in! If you are praying and asking God to show you the moments in which you can tune in, you will see all the opportunities that​ God gives you to​ ​take the time to​ offer the grace gift of ​tuning in and​ ​interacting with your children on their level.



Take some time to ask God to make you aware of new ways you can begin to tune in to your children– no matter their age. I promise you, there are some really amazing little people in your home! It takes time and effort to really get to know them, but it is worth every moment!

**This 25 Day journey is based on my book “Grace Gifts: Celebrating Your Children Every Day“. You do not need the book to go through “25 Days of Grace“, but if you are interested, you can purchase a copy HERE!