I Am Ungrateful

He walks through the front door and finds me slumped on the couch, watching a movie.  Closing the door behind him, he asks, “Is there anything to eat?”  “I don’t know…” I mumble… “We already ate.” I continue watching my movie. He is left to fend for himself.

He walks into the kitchen and grabs a few pretzels.

I am irritated. Frustrated.  Tired. He’s been working so many hours and I have been alone.  “How’d things go?” I ask as he sits on the couch next to me. The movie is still going. It is evident that I am only halfway interested in his day.

He doesn’t answer.

He has been so busy lately with his job, life,  and people.   And even though he can always work on saying “No!” more than he does, most of the time he is just doing what he has been called to do.  He is working hard. Providing for his family.

I should get up. I should make him something to eat. I should turn off the movie and listen as he tells me about his day. I should be more encouraging.

I am ungrateful.

Genesis 3 tells me that because man sinned, his judgement would be that he would have to  toil and have great hardships in making a livelihood. The same word which describes the pain of women in childbirth is used to describe man’s pain in laboring for a living. The life of man would be one of hard work caused by “thorns and thistles” indicating that even the plants of earth were adversely effected by man’s sin.

The next day in church the pastor reminds us that we have a choice.  A choice to submit to our emotions or to submit to God.  We should be praying. Rejoicing. The Lord is at hand…

Rejoice in the Lord always; again I will say, rejoice….And the peace of God, which surpasses all understanding, will guard your hearts and your minds in Christ Jesus.”

Let your reasonableness be known to everyone. The Lord is at hand…” (Let your gracious humility be on display for everyone!)

I slowly reach over and grab my husband’s hand.  I glance at him and conviction’s arrow pierces my heart.  This handsome, hardworking man came home to find a tired, ungrateful wife sitting on the couch.

How sad! (OUCHCan we have a “do-over”?)

The Lord is at hand…(The Lord could come at any time…Christ is near you and He indwells you.)

I  confess my sin to God. I confess my sin to my husband. I tell him I’m sorry I was slumped on the couch and he had to eat pretzels when he was hungry. I’m sorry I didn’t turn off the movie and that I wasn’t interested in his day.

I’m sorry I was ungrateful. I’m sorry that man sinned…and he has to work so hard!

I purpose to pray and rejoice and remember…The Lord is at hand!

9 thoughts on “I Am Ungrateful”

  1. Unfortunately, I've been there, done that, Gina. And am equally as convicted by my selfishness as you seem to be here. I've been resolving with Christ's help to do better. So far (been just a couple of days) so good! 🙂 Thanks for being real and challenging the rest of us to do better too.

  2. Such a beautifully transparent post. I think you could say that we've all been there.

    My husband is a pastor and he does a great job of trying to be "here" when he's here.

    But there have been times when he's late coming home and forgets to call or we're supposed to go somewhere and he's late showing up because someone or something delayed him.

    Or we're right in the middle of watching a movie together and someone from the church calls and wants to talk to him (fortunately it's usually a non-emergency, lol!)

    As you said, it's what he's called to do, so he's only doing his job.

    Fortunately, he has patience with me when I'm not quite "here" because my mind is elsewhere or I have to spend time caring for my elderly mom (who lives with us) and I don't get back upstairs to start dinner, or I didn't wash any socks, etc., because I just didn't get around to it yet, etc.

    I have to admit that I'm getting the better deal, lol! He has to deal with my sometimes scatter-brained behavior….sigh.

    I really loved that quote at the end of your post!

  3. Gina…you're really keeping it real here! I think that many of us have done and continue to do (on wretched days) similar to you. Thank God for grace and the Holy Spirit's conviction!

    Thanks for a great reminder.

  4. Thank you for sharing! I think we all have days like that. I myself struggle with similar feelings often. I'm with the kids all the time, and it feels like he's getting off easy going to work, getting to have adult conversations instead of changing diapers all day. But I know that he is responsible for supporting our family and his desk job is stressful because he pays the bills (at the office and at home) and feels the strain of our struggling economy. I have been working on my heart, trying to show my husband how thankful I am that he works hard to provide for our family. Thanks for being open and reminding us that we're not alone in our struggles. God bless you!

  5. Beautiful words and so true. I find it hard sometimes now that I am not in the working world when my husband comes home it should be my 'job' to see if he is tired, or weary, or hungry. I am not good at looking at him and meeting his needs. Even as a 57 year old I can learn new things and create a better environment for him at home. Thank you.

  6. Transparency by the Spirit is such a beautiful thing. I could have been reading about myself. Thank you for sharing. The burdens begin to lify when we realize we are not the only one.

  7. Whoaa Gina! Sister, you are not alone here. I certainly have been here many times– unfortunately. And dear husband has been so patient. I recently wrote about the same thing as a guest blog-post. The Lord was really dealing with me about that. I'm thankful that he lovingly and graciously corrects us!

    Great encouragement, Gina!!


  8. I love how you are so transparent and you teach us with your posts. I don't always comment but I have had similar times when this post was me. I had to humble myself and ask for forgiveness from God and my husband. I have been working on my heart with my husband and also my children. God bless you and thank you for posting your heart.

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