- Assure the other person of your commitment to them as a member of the body of Christ. Let them know you don’t want anything to stand between you. Affirm the person in any way possible.
- Acknowledge that you may have taken whatever the person said or did in a way that he did not intend it to be taken.
- Ask God to help you to humbly explain the way you view the situation that has brought offense. Try to lay out the facts as objectively as possible. Don’t accuse.
- Ask for the person’s point of view and give them time to explain. Be willing to adjust your understanding of the situation and to really hear their perspective. Be willing to admit that you may have misunderstood them.
“A new commandment I give to you, that you love one another: just as I have loved you, you also are to love one another. By this all people will know that you are my disciples, if you have love for one another.” John 13:34-35
- Remember that we are required to do everything possible to live at peace with all men and that we are called to love one another as Christ loved us…and this is how others will know you are His disciples.
- If the person admits they were wrong and asks for forgiveness, speak words of forgiveness.
- If the person does not feel they did anything wrong and assures you that you have misunderstood them, you must then take it at face value and move on.
- If possible, pray with the person and verbalize your commitment to him as a member of the body of Christ. Pray for them and ask God to help you to not develop any bitterness but that you would forgive in the same way you have been forgiven by God.
“If possible, so far as it depends on you, live peaceably with all.” Romans 12:18